Two years down many more to go.

I'm excited to share the concluding part of my interview with Lola Busari A.K.A MrsB.  Read the first part HERE.
In this part she talks about her relationship with her now husband who was a Muslim, and how God sent an Angel to her and even took her on trips to heaven to re-assure her of his love. This shows that our God is a God that cares about the littlest of things including our feelings and emotions.
Read the concluding part below, don;t forget to share this link via social media with your friends and foes to bless them.

  • What was it that made you stick with him despite him being a Muslim?
Well...lol as I said, I was ready to end it as soon as I found out. I even told my parents about it and of my decision to end things since there was no way it would lead to marriage. And after all...Marriage is what I had prayed and fasted for, so there was no time for time wasters lol.

Mr B kept telling me, whatever the case is, we are going to be happily married lol. I was like: no we can't get married lol. So I left it at that and then he travelled to Nigeria to do his youth service a month after we had started dating. I didn't see him again until I went there with my family for our Christmas holiday.

So for those months whilst we were apart, I was in full prayer mode with God lol. And I just had God's peace about everything. Then within a week of returning to London after our Christmas holiday, God sent the Angel to my bedroom to tell me not to worry about Mr B being Muslim, that he will come to know and love Jesus and that God has called him to be my husband.

  •  So you dated a Muslim despite the whole "do not be unequally yoked rule" what was that like?
Yep! Lol. Trust me, as soon as I had the visit from the angel, I knew that no matter what...Mr B was the man for me because God himself had said so.

It was not until January 2011 that God began to speak to me so clearly. At the start of January, I awoke at 3am to a bright light shining in my bedroom. There, standing by my wardrobe was a very tall angel dressed in sparkling white robes.
I was so afraid and I could feel a strange sensation surging through my body that would cause me to shake, like my whole body was vibrating and shock waves were going through me but at the same time it was a beautiful feeling.

And then the angel spoke to me. It said that God has seen that I’ve been worried about Dayo being a Muslim, but that I shouldn’t worry about it because in the Lord’s own time, He will bring Dayo to Christ and that the Lord has called for us to be together as husband and wife.

I was shocked, afraid, amazed and glad all at the same time. I couldn’t even speak and the Holy Spirit instructed me to write everything down that the angel had told me. I also wrote down the date and time that it happened and told my family about the visitation. After this, for the next two years, every night at 3am, I would be awoken by the Holy Spirit and be taken to Heaven where I would spend time with the Lord and He would tell me various things about what would happen in my life in the future, as well as about the relationship that he had planned for Dayo and I.

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  • Were there times when you felt that you were not walking according to the will of God concerning your relationship. Did you ever feel as if God threw you under the bus?
The only times when I felt like maybe I wasn't walking in accordance to God's will, was during that 3 month period of him being in Nigeria after we had started dating. Even though I had a strange sense of peace, I would constantly question myself all the time. Like: Lola! What are you doing? You're a youth mentor, a Sunday School teacher...people know you as this serious Christian girl and of all the Christian men out there... You've gone for the Muslim one!

To be honest, it was such a difficult time and once the angel spoke to me in January 2011, I didn't care anymore about what anyone said. It was after that when Jesus would meet with me in my room and take me on visits to Heaven and tell me so many things that have all come to pass now, 4 years down the line.

It was having such a close relationship with the Holy Spirit and hearing the very voice of our Almighty God Himself that got me through such hard times. Even when my dad threatened to disown me or when my friends sent me bible passages about not being unequally yoked...I stood on all that God had told me about the marriage and the family and the life that He had in store for Mr B and I. It was hard and yes at times I would ask God why???? But looking at my life today and the marriage I have with Mr B, I wouldn't trade that difficult journey for all the gold in the world!

  • Would you advise any young person, to date someone not of the same faith with them?
When it comes to a serious relationship like marriage, the most definitely NOT!!! Lol!

But seriously, the Bible is right when it says not to be unequally yoked and that's not just because it's written in some old, ancient book of rules... It's because God knows that what He wants for us is what is best for us.

Marriage isn't just two people being joined together. Marriage is two people becoming one. If you are not spiritually equally yoked, then it's IMPOSSIBLE for you to be made ONE. You can't bring together oil and water in the same container and expect it to be one equally combined liquid. The way Mr B and I are now that we are of the same faith is just a completely new relationship altogether, better in every way than we could have even imagined. And that's because when God connects not just two people...but two people's spirits together...it’s completely AMAZING!

And it goes for Christians too. There are so many so called Christians who are real idiots (God forgive me). There's NO way I would have wanted to marry ANY of the guys who were in the Christian Society at my uni. Some were drunks, abusive and cheats. Yet many people wouldn't have blinked an eyelid if I was dating one of them instead of Mr B, just because they were "Christian". Even within Christianity you can't be unequally yoked to "Christians" who bear the name of the faith but not the true spirit of it.

My situation was very different in the sense that had God not told me that Mr B was my husband...our relationship would not have continued. I think the key, most important thing is to just pray about anyone and everyone God brings your way, regardless of your background.

  • Who was your support system during this period?
Definitely my mother. She prayed with and for me every day. My beautiful sister, and my family. Mr B's sister and her husband were also praying for us all the time as well as Mr B's mum. My close friends were also praying for us too.

  •  Tell us about Mr B's salvation
January 2011 as I mentioned earlier, is when I found out that Mr B would become a Christian. But it wasn’t until the middle of 2011 that, God showed me exactly how Mr B's salvation would happen. But he said I wasn't to mention it to Mr B so that when it does happen, all the glory would go to God. It didn't actually happen until a whole year after God had shown it to me, but in June 2012,

Furthermore, at this point in time, Dayo and I had taken a break, as I wanted him to seek Christ and the truth for himself, and to not accept Christianity just because of me or to just accept Islam because he had grown up in a Muslim home.
I explained that the truth is found in having a true personal experience and relationship with God for yourself and then you will truly know which is the right way to follow God.

God told me that He would put spiritual wings behind Dayo’s ears so that when He calls him to salvation, he would hear and know that Jesus truly is the Lord and to God be the glory, the very next night, after my mother had a dream, Dayo gave his life to Christ and he later explained that he had had a dream that revealed the truth of Christ to him.
It happened just as God said it would. And it's one of the greatest moments of my entire life! After his conversion,
 Mr B started going to church and got baptised later that year. I remember watching from the side during his baptism ceremony and I just couldn't stop crying. Tears of joy were just flowing down my face uncontrollably. It was like all of the struggles since August 2010 when we started dating were slowly being melted away with the baptismal waters.
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  • Was staying celibate easy for you two during your dating/courtship stage?
This is going to sound so funny but we had NO problems whatsoever in that department. It’s interesting how the Christian guys I dated couldn't hack it and Mr B respected and loved me so much that from the beginning of our relationship and all the way through, it was NEVER an issue. Obviously when you're close to someone, you want to feel even closer and it’s hard to not give in to your feelings but you always have to remember the bigger picture. We wanted everything about our relationship to be pure.

The first time we laid eyes on each other’s naked bodies was after we were married --‐ and God's gift of sex in marriage is so beautiful. There is no shame or dis-honour. It's all pure unrestricted love and passion that God has blessed us with. I have already started writing my third book called "God Make Sex- And He Saw That It Was Good." It's about exploring God's gift of sex in marriage and gives wives some tips and tricks about how to keep things spicy in marriage lol. (Only for the married ladies oh! Lol)

  •  How did his family react to his conversion, was it like he converted for a girl?
Mr B's family are quite laid back but his father is a very strict Muslim. He wasn't happy about it and we thought that there was more trouble ahead. But he came to the wedding full of joy and happiness and love. He continues to pray for Mr B as he felt he had made a wrong decision by converting to Christianity but as any good parent does, he blesses us with his prayers and with his fatherly love. I am truly blessed to have such wonderful in laws who treat me like their own beloved daughter.

  • Now that you are married to him, are there any clashes with the family based on religious differences?
Praise God no. There may be heated discussions and debates from time to time but everyone ends up praying for each other lol. And the love of God in the family overpowers everything. God truly is so awesome because I used to fear not being accepted but they don't look at that at all.

  •  How has it been, being married to Mr B?
Honestly? I feel like the luckiest woman in the world to be married to him. I used to think that any guy who gets me should be thanking his lucky stars and should be so grateful to be with an educated, successful and God fearing woman. Lol I know that sounds a bit big headed but its how I used to think.

But God stripped me completely of thinking in such a way. It's not about how good you are, or about how good the guy is...it’s about what GOOD can God bring out of the both of you being together. Now I feel like I'm the one thanking my lucky stars...well thanking God for bringing Mr B and I together.

No relationship is perfect and no relationship is without its issues but I truly do believe in the Happily Ever After marriage that we have. He treats me like a queen everyday, he protects and loves me, he shows me how he'll be a great father and an awesome leader of our family, he prays for me and for our future children everyday, he cares about the things I care about and he always supports me. He pushes me to do things I've been afraid to do and there are so many things I've had success with because he's the one who has encouraged me to go for them when I felt I couldn't. And on top of that he buys me things and cares about my happiness. When someone treats you like that, you can't help but treat them like a king.

Some wives feel like it's a backwards mentality to want to serve your husband and cater to him but I don't care! With all my degrees and businesses and accomplishments, they don't mean anything if:

1) I do not know how to love, serve and respect Jesus

2) I cannot love, serve and respect my husband.

Being married to Mr B is the best thing that has happened to me besides giving my life to Christ and I wouldn't have it any other way.

  • Tell us about your marriage ministry.
The marriage ministry is called My Happily Ever After Marriage Ministry at mrsbusari.com

It was in March 2011 on one of my visits to Heaven that God told me about it. He said He was going to use my marriage testimony as the foundation of the ministry to help and encourage women from all over the world.

I wrote it all down as He instructed me to, but at the time I didn't see how me having a marriage ministry would be possible when the guy I was in love with was not of the same faith as me. What kind of example would or could I be setting?

But when God says a thing, it has no choice but to come to pass. And now, women from all over the world in China, Russia, Zimbabwe, Nigeria, America, the U.K....Caribbean... Literally everywhere, contact me for prayers and advice and for me to minister to them. It’s such a great pleasure when I go to speak at events and encourage others.

I pray that I will continue to work on encouraging and inspiring single ladies as well as married women. I know it’s only been two years of marriage but God has tested and taught us about so many things in such a short space of time which Mr B and I will share with you as time goes along.

The event I held in Nigeria last month is the relationship seminar branch of the ministry called 'Christian

Conversations On Love & Marriage'. This was the brain child of Mr B and it was such an empowering and wonderful event. The next one will be in February 2016 in Lagos, Nigeria with fellow blogger Kemi Filani and then in London, UK in March 2016 to coincide with the launch of my new book. But feel free to check the website for news and updates of future events.

It's been such a pleasure answering these questions and sharing my experiences with you. I hope you've been encouraged and please do feel free to contact me via the website for any advice you may need.
That's what I'm here for.
God bless,
Faith, Hope and Love,
You can also follow her @mrsbusari.com_


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